belgian beer, norwegian cruises, hong-kong upbringing

[flaviomatani]

Good evening spent at silkyfish's and dj_gassmann's, with featheredwings, beric and green_faeries, sipping belgian beer (some of us), and milky bailey's (some others amongst us...:), and catching up while Sarah and Uwe got ready for their Norwegian cruise tomorrow... (nice life for some:)

Comments

[gelflyng.livejournal.com]

Don't forget to put paedophiles as part of the topics discussed in your entry's title. I still think the right balance of care and discipline in a child's upbringing helps them cope with neuroses that develop especially during teenage years, therefore helps to prevent the creation of such people as paedophiles (or any other such people in various forms that get satisfied from hurting others in whatever shape or form).

[flavius-m.livejournal.com]

I am not so sure that that is the answer. The topic arose because of that convicted man in the news, but notice that he seems to be of an age that he would have been through a much more strict schooling in that sense and certainly caning would have been part of it. I don't know. Discipline is necessary but I am not too sure that those physical means, like caning, are the best way to instill a sense of discipline and what's right and wrong. It is a very complex issue and I don't think I know enough to venture a definite opinion

[gelflyng.livejournal.com]

No. Physical disciplin doesn't really work if the focus is on the physical. The emphasis should always be psychological disciplin - any physical aid must not actually cause real physical pain. You are right of course that it's difficult to find the balance in that. Hence why the world is full of psychos and hooligans.

[flavius-m.livejournal.com]

Indeed. But this ties with my perhaps extreme example, of my mum chasing after us with a belt when we were kids, of which we took not the blindest bit of notice, and my dad, who inspired terror in us (which is, of course, not good), even though he never ever touched us